Five Personality Types of Energy Vampires...

[Mike]

...an article by Dr Bruce Goldberg from http://www.drbrucegoldberg.com/EnergyVampires.htm

A nice distinction between Energy Vampires and Psychic Parasites... albeit seems slightly black and white re prior lives...But as usual 100% of the words in any article dont have to be in the right order to make it worthwhile lol... and certainly in a professional capacity this year have had to spend a lot of time with respect to someone who certainly fits the bill precisely re the Paranoid Type and so I can vouch for the accuracy of that one (plus an almost visible need to feed off the bad energy his behaviour created)

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Energy Vampires
 
 Some people, by their very presence, seem to drain the energy of those unprotected people around them.  They will often associate with a victim who exhibits the classic signs of this drain.

    General debility, lack of motivation and energy, an emaciated physique, a pallid complexion, and an overall sense of weakness are typically noted.    These victims also tended to be highly suggestible people.  The dominant partner (energy vampire) always resists a successful treatment or protection applied to their victim.  

    Most of these energy vampires are well-meaning, normal people.    They are an unhappy lot, and do their damage by a telepathic draining of their victim's energy resources.  Mere separation of two people results in immediate positive changes in the victim.  In my Los Angeles office I train all such victims in the art of spiritual protection techniques to eliminate any recurrences of this syndrome.    Try the psychic protection negativity experience on the hypnotic exercise link for your own protection.

    I prefer to use the term "psychic parasitism" for cases where this energy drain is involuntary and subconscious.  If this effect is the result of a premeditated psychic attack, I refer to the perpetrator as an energy vampire.

    You will observe this process at work in any public gathering,.    The more people present, the easier it will be to note.  This could be a family gathering, a lecture, or an encounter at your local movie theater.  When I    conduct seminars and workshops, it is more than obvious.  I discuss this concept and immediately see certain heads bobbing up and down.  Even more interesting is the response of their partner.  These individuals give more me some of the nastiest looks I have ever seen.  Fear not, I am fully protected and am not susceptible to their parasitism/vampirism.

 PSYCHIC DEFENSE STRATEGIES AGAINST

Energy Vampires

    The psychological dynamics represented by people who inadvertently portray a psychic attacker (energy vampire) fall into five major categories.  This personality type is an accumulation of that individual's experiences in their current life, as well as in prior lifetimes.

    Fear is the common denominator in these individuals, and you must learn to protect yourself from their negative influences.  The five personality types are called ethereal, insecure, paranoid, passive-aggressive, and robotic.

The Paranoid Type

Betrayal is the main issue with a paranoid type.  Their karmic theme in past lives has possibly been that of warrior-like behavior, self-sacrifice, and victory in their battles.  As a results of their experiences, they learned that there were enemies in the world who betrayed and possibly killed them in several incarnations.

    Paranoid types are soldiers still trying to win a  war that no longer exists against an enemy that has long since perished.  They do not trust anyone.  Everyone is their enemy and life is their battleground.  Fear is everywhere and an ingrained part of their personality makeup.

    Their energy fields tend to be more highly charged on the upper half of their body.  They are especially fearful and distrustful of members of the opposite sex.  Aggression is the most common response to the world from a paranoid type.  This aggression takes the form of physical behavior and energy projections to anyone in their path.

    Paranoid types constantly pick fights.  They are seductive, but are incapable of long-term relationships.  This person expects all others to betray them, and will assist in setting up others for this betrayal.  A paranoid may initiate a betrayal as a preemptory strike.

    To lose for a paranoid is to admit that they are bad.  This is intolerable, so these people must win at any cost.  They are hard workers, obsessive-compulsive, and are usually quite healthy physically.  There is never enough time for them to accomplish their various goals.

    Paranoid types insist you agree with their often-distorted view of the world.  In reality, they want you to argue with them.  This way they can win the argument and prove to themselves that they are good and you are bad.

    Never argue with this person.  Refrain from making eye contact with them.  Lower and soften your voice when you speak to them, and change the topic to something pleasant

The Ethereal Type

Existential terror is the predominant issue of an ethereal type.  Most often these troubled souls have been tortured to death in previous lives for their metaphysical beliefs or practices.  Their only escape was to leave the body, so out-of-body experiences are the norm with them today.

    These individuals do not want much contact with others.  They were afraid to incarnate in their present body, and show this fear by being unwilling to commit their consciousness completely into their physical body.

    Leaving their physical body often throughout the day is the most common method that ethereal types use to deal with problems.  They have weak boundaries and spend as much time as possible on the spiritual realms.  Since all time is simultaneous on other planes, these people find it difficult to relate to linear time.    

    The result of these inclinations is both withdrawal and aggression.    They become aggressive and angry when forced to function on the earth plane.    Their psychic attack on you is rarely premeditated, but nonetheless you must protect yourself from these individuals.

The Insecure Type

The main issue with insecure types is nurturance.  These souls have been through many incarnations during which there simply was not enough food or love to go around.    They usually were abandoned at some time in their present life, and fear it will happen again.

    The insecure type feels that everyone around them is draining their energy; their response is to suck the energy from others to compensate.  They may engage you in long, boring conversations and speak very softly.  Their voice is so soft and low that you have to strain to hear them.  These  are compulsive people who are classically overweight and prove to addictions of all kinds.

    These souls continually create life experience proving that they are not worthy of attention, and their energy needs and nurturing requirements will never be satisfied.  To solve this deficiency, they must persist in draining the energy from others, creating a vicious cycle.

    An insecure type always comes across as helpless.  They insist you do things for them, and expect you to take care of their every need.    Give-and-take circumstances are unknown to them.  All they can do is take.

    Never stand directly in front of this person.  Do not make eye contact with him or her, if possible.  Encourage them with words, but do not offer to do things for them.  Remember these individuals live in constant fear of rejection and abandonment.  Do not let your pity for them be a basis for you being their next victim.

The Passive-Aggressive Type

Invasion and being controlled is the chief concern of the passive-aggressive type.    During several past incarnations, they experienced being controlled and trapped in situations, and prevented from being able to express themselves in ways they wanted to.   They may have been slaves, prisoners, or been victimized by religion or governments.

    These souls absolutely desire freedom, but their fear prevents them from claiming it.  They are angry and resentful for not feeling free, and lack a solution to this problem.  Their response to the world is withdrawal, but with a subconscious wish to obtain permission from other people to come back into the world.

    Passive-aggressive types lack autonomy.  They constantly strive to involve other people in their lives.  This individual makes demands and resists input at the same time.  They live in the now, and never plan or think about the future. Self-expression is unknown to them.  It is common to observe others interfering with their development, completing their sentences, and taking them for granted.

    This type of individual creates an internal world of unclear, undifferentiated fantasies and ideas, with fear at the core of this world.  They imprison themselves and project loneliness, desperation, and resentment toward everyone they contact.  It is impossible for them to express anger.

    Whey you engage this type in a conversation, they will request your advice.  Unfortunately, all of your suggestions are wrong and you are of no help to them.  These people ask but reject whatever is offered to them.  Their classic response to your advice is, "yes,but.."

The Robot Type

    The main issue of robotic types is authenticity.  They are denying their true self.  During previous lifetimes, they had to keep up the appearance of being perfect in order to survive.  They were most likely in charge of running things, as they probably are now.

    Their outer world is perfect, the inner world is denied, and there is no core essence.  They constantly fear that something is missing and life is progressing without them.

    To deal with this reality, robot types try to become even more perfect.  They have high-paying jobs, a good reputation, a perfect spouse and family, and look in perfect health.

    The more inauthentic they act, the more meaningless the world appears.  Others envy their lifestyle.  People come to them with their problems.    The robot types never attain satisfaction from life, and come across as a blank.   They function as if on automatic pilot and are often removed from your conversation.

    Robot types never complain about the world.  They are perfect and everything is beautiful.  Appropriateness and being "politically correct" are more important that being real.

    These five types of psychic parasites need to be recognized and treated accordingly, or a psychic attack upon you is inevitable.

    I highly recommend my Spiritual Growth cassette album and my book Protected By the Light to fully benefit from this topic. Also visit Dr. Goldberg's book directory

[Mike]

another article by Judith Orloff from http://www.womenof.com/Articles/p_4_5_04.asp
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Positive Energy: How to Build Vitality and Stop Energy Vampires from Draining You
by Judith Orloff, M.D.

Adapted from Positive Energy, Harmony Books, April, 2004

I learned to honor my energy needs the hard way. As a psychiatrist who specializes in intuition I knew how important it was to listen to my body. Yet still I'd vacillate between intense weeks of speaking tours to bouts of utter exhaustion at home. I couldn't turn down "irresistible" opportunities. Here was my dilemma--I trusted my intuition, and was committed to living by it. But I had a blind spot: Although I was quite successful at helping others at trusting intuition and leading high energy lives I was ignoring my own energy crises. Finally my fatigue was so profound I had to change.

I know first hand how important it is for us to cherish our precious energy so we don't compromise our capacity for passion. I now believe that the most profound transformations can only take place only on an energetic level. I've met many patients who've spent much time and money on talk therapy hoping that intellectual insights will bring emotional freedom, but they're disappointed. As much as I love the linear mind, my approach, which I call "Energy Psychiatry," goes further to also facilitate a conscious rebuilding of a subtle energies, the most basic life force in each of us.

Do You Get Drained By Other People's Energy?

Our bodies are made of flesh and blood, but they're also composed of energy fields-though sadly I wasn't taught this in medical school. Each day we encounter a wide range of energies, both positive and negative. Positive energy includes compassion, courage, forgiveness, and faith. Negative energy includes fear, anger, hopelessness, and shame. We need to be experts at dealing with energy so we don't get demolished by draining situations or people who're energy vampires.

Like me you may be an intuitive empath, someone who's so sensitive to energy you pick it up but you're also drained by it. This goes way beyond feeling sympathy for a distraught friend-we actually take on their pain either emotionally or physically. To cope we take refuge in solitude. We empaths are so attuned to others that we can feel what's going on inside of them. This can put us on energy overload and aggravate everything from chronic fatigue to overeating.

Growing up, my girlfriends couldn't wait to hit the malls, but I dreaded them. I always felt overwhelmed, exhausted around crowds, though I was clueless why. "What's the matter?" friends would say, shooting me the weirdest looks. All I knew was that crowded places and I just didn't mix. I'd go there feeling fine but leave nervous, depressed, or with some new ache or pain. Unsuspectingly, I was a gigantic sponge, absorbing the energy of people around me.

Thank goodness, as my intuition matured, I realized I had intuitive empathy. Once I learned to protect my energy, empathy has become a gift enhancing my compassion. Here's how empathy works: the more people per square foot, the more our energy fields intersect--thus the tendency to become overloaded in high-density areas. This aspect of intuition is the most neglected.

Empaths, unintentionally, can make even a good doctor's life hell. They manifest so many "unexplained" symptoms, that frustrated physicians write them off as hypochondriacs. Empaths are notoriously misdiagnosed. Patients have come to me with obesity who've failed diets because they needed strategies other than eating to protect themselves from negative energy. Others were labeled "agoraphobic" or with "panic disorder," having received only minor relief from traditional treatments. Some were nearly house-bound. They'd all say, "I dislike crowded places where there's no quick escape. Forget department stores, busy streets, elevators, tunnels. I just avoid them." Sounded very familiar. So I decided to take a history of how these people processed subtle energy in the world, something all health professionals must be trained to assess. Voila! I found many were undiagnosed empaths. For me, this changed everything. My job as a physician then became teaching my patients to center themselves and protect their energy.

A Survival Guide to Protect Yourself from Energy Vampires.

You don't have to be an empath to experience the fang marks of an energy vampire, though empaths are often hit the hardest. Relationships are always an energy exchange. To stay feeling our best, we must ask ourselves: Who gives us energy? Who saps it? It's important to be surrounded by supportive, heart-centered people who make us feel safe and secure. It's equally important to pinpoint the energy vampires, who, whether they intend to or not, leech our energy.

Positive energy in others can be rejuvenative. For instance, you're nervous about a job interview, but the minute you meet your prospective boss you relax. He's so calm and welcoming, you calm down too. Or perhaps you have a good friend around whom you always feel loved. These are energy-givers, those we must gravitate towards.

In contrast, energy vampires exude negative energy that drains. Vampires range from the intentionally malicious ones to those who are oblivious to their effect. Some are overbearing and obnoxious; others are friendly and charming. For example, you're at a party talking to a perfectly nice person, but suddenly you're nauseous or weak. Or how about the co-worker who drones on about how she broke up with her boyfriend for the tenth time? Eventually, she feels better, but you're spent. The bottom line is that on a subtle energy level these people suck you dry.

There are many types of vampires to watch out for. The main ones I stress in my book are the Drama Queen who wears you out with her dramas; The Sob Sister, who whines all the time; The Blamer, who cuts you down with criticism and The Go-For-The-Carotid type who purposely cuts your down without any respect for your feelings. Keep an eye out for these types so you're aware of their methods, and stop them from draining you.

Strategies for Dealing with Energy Vampires

1.Take an inventory of people in your life who give energy, and people who drain. Specifically identify the energy vampires, and begin to evaluate ones you'd like to limit contact with or eliminate. Plan at least one complete afternoon with people who give off positive energy and avoid drainers. Notice how this beneficially affects your physical and emotional well-being.

2. Set Clear Boundaries. It's crucial to limit the time you spend discussing a vampire's gripes. When approaching her, remember: the difference between being a bitch and setting boundaries is attitude. Instead of saying, "You're selfish and self-obsessed, I can't take you anymore," which a part of you likely feels, take a breath and shift to your heart.

3. Meditate. Sitting in meditation is a life-line to your center, to the earth. It will ground you when you've been struck by a vampire. By calming the mind, you can re-align with your essence. Close your eyes. Focus on your breath. Then gently extend your awareness downward to strata, bedrock, minerals, and soil. From the base of your spine begin to feel continuity with the earth's core. Picture having a long tail that roots in that center. Allow the earth's energy to infuse your body and stabilize you. If you meditate for five minutes or an hour this is sacred time.

4. Walk away. If you feel your energy being zapped don't hesitate to politely excuse yourself from a killing conversation. Move at least twenty feet from the person, outside the range of his or her energy field. "I have to go to the bathroom" is a foolproof line. Most people are oblivious to how their energy impacts others. For years, reluctant to hurt anyone's feelings, I needlessly endured these types of situations and suffered. How many of us are so loathe to appear rude that a raving maniac can be right in our face, and still we don't budge for fear of offending? In a spot, physically removing yourself is a sure quick solution.

5. Build an energy shield around you. When you're with vampires you can't get away from visualize a protective shield of while light surrounding every inch of you. This lets positive energy in, but keeps negative energy out-particularly efficient for vampires at family dinners or social events where you're trapped.

I hope I've inspired you to be more fierce about asserting your energy needs. Never put yourself down as being "overly sensitive." Sensitivity is an asset as long as you learn how to protect yourself from negative vibes. Understanding how you react energetically in the world is particularly important if you're chronically tired and want to build vitality. Knowledge is power. Meeting your energy needs can balance mind, body, and spirit to create a vibrant life.

[Mike]

Dr Orloff - How To Spot Energy Vampires http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XqYWslvqnKU

I like her types - "Learn to spot drama queens, chronic talkers, sob sisters, blamer or ciriticiser and more..."

[Mike]

Ah here are the types  http://www.drjudithorloff.com/BlogRetrieve.aspx?BlogID=1375&PostID=66057

Who's the Emotional Vampire in Your Life?
Dr. Orloff - Sunday, January 16, 2011

As a physician, I've found that the biggest energy drain on my patients is relationships. Some relationships are positive and mood elevating. Others can suck optimism and serenity right out of you. I call these draining people "emotional vampires." They do more than drain your physical energy. The malignant ones can make you believe you're unworthy and unlovable. Others inflict damage with smaller digs to make you feel bad about yourself. For instance, "Dear, I see you've put on a few pounds" or "You're overly sensitive!" Suddenly they've thrown you off-center by prodding areas of shaky self-worth.

To protect your energy it's important to combat draining people. The following strategies from my book "Emotional Freedom" will help you identify and combat emotional vampires from an empowered place.

Signs That You've Encountered an Emotional Vampire

Your eyelids are heavy -- you're ready for a nap
Your mood takes a nosedive
You want to binge on carbs or comfort foods
You feel anxious, depressed or negative
You feel put down

Types of Emotional Vampires

The Narcissist

Their motto is "Me first." Everything is all about them. They have a grandiose sense of self-importance and entitlement, hog attention and crave admiration. They're dangerous because they lack empathy and have a limited capacity for unconditional love. If you don't do things their way, they become punishing, withholding or cold.

How to Protect Yourself: Keep your expectations realistic. These are emotionally limited people. Try not to fall in love with one or expect them to be selfless or love without strings attached. Never make your self-worth dependent on them or confide your deepest feelings to them. To successfully communicate, the hard truth is that you must show how something will be to their benefit. Though it's better not to have to contend with this tedious ego stroking, if the relationship is unavoidable this approach works.

The Victim

These vampires grate on you with their "poor-me" attitude. The world is always against them, the reason for their unhappiness. When you offer a solution to their problems they always say, "Yes, but..." You might end up screening your calls or purposely avoid them. As a friend, you may want to help but their tales of woe overwhelm you.

How to Protect Yourself: Set kind but firm limits. Listen briefly and tell a friend or relative, "I love you but I can only listen for a few minutes unless you want to discuss solutions." With a coworker sympathize by saying, "I'll keep having good thoughts for things to work out." Then say, "I hope you understand, but I'm on deadline and must return to work." Then use "this isn't a good time" body language such as crossing your arms and breaking eye contact to help set these healthy limits.

The Controller

These people obsessively try to control you and dictate how you're supposed to be and feel. They have an opinion about everything. They'll control you by invalidating your emotions if they don't fit into their rulebook. They often start sentences with "You know what you need?" and then proceed to tell you. You end up feeling dominated, demeaned or put down.

How to Protect Yourself: The secret to success is never try and control a controller. Be healthily assertive, but don't tell them what to do. You can say, "I value your advice but really need to work through this myself." Be confident but don't play the victim.

The Constant Talker

These people aren't interested in your feelings. They are only concerned with themselves. You wait for an opening to get a word in edgewise but it never comes. Or these people might physically move in so close they're practically breathing on you. You edge backwards, but they step closer.

How to Protect Yourself: These people don't respond to nonverbal cues. You must speak up and interrupt, as hard as that is to do. Listen for a few minutes. Then politely say, "I hate to interrupt, but please excuse me I have to talk to these other people... or get to an appointment... or go to the bathroom." A much more constructive tactic than, "Keep quiet, you're driving me crazy!" If this is a family member, politely say, "I'd love if you allowed me some time to talk to so I can add to the conversation." If you say this neutrally, it can better be heard.

The Drama Queen

These people have a flair for exaggerating small incidents into off-the-chart dramas. My patient Sarah was exhausted when she hired a new employee who was always late for work. One week he had the flu and "almost died." Next, his car was towed, again! After this employee left her office Sarah felt tired and used.

How to Protect Yourself: A drama queen doesn't get mileage out of equanimity. Stay calm. Take a few deep breaths. This will help you not get caught up in the histrionics. Set kind but firm limits. Say, for example, "You must be here on time to keep your job. I'm sorry for all your mishaps, but work comes first."

To improve your relationships and increase your energy level, I suggest taking an inventory of people who give you energy and those that drain you. Try to spend time with the loving, nurturing people, and learn to set limits with those who drain you. This will enhance the quality of your life

 

[Mike]

and from http://www.drjudithorloff.com/_blog/Dr_Judith_Orloff%27s_Blog/post/Are_You_In_Love_With_An_Emotional_Vampire_Strategies_to_Cope_With_a_Draining_Partner_%28VIDEO%29/

Here are some common types of emotional vampires in the romantic arena and how to deal with them clearly and effectively:

Vampire No. 1: The Nagger

These drainers become broken records and won't let up with their requests until you act on them. Their comments include the following: "Did you call your mother yet?"; "Did you get to the gym?"; "When are you starting on your diet?" They'll annoy you with scolding, nitpicking or repetitive demands. They can be so persistent that you feel pressured and drained.

How To Protect Yourself: Set clear limits with your mate in a kind, but firm tone. For instance, say, "Sweetheart, I love you, but you are pressuring me too much. Please back off a little." Naggers often need to be gently re-trained. You may need to practice limit setting for a while to change this pattern.

Vampire No. 2: The Victim/Complainer

These types grate on you with their "poor me" attitude. The world is always against them, and this is the reason for their unhappiness. When you offer a solution to their problems, they always say, "Yes, but..." You might end up dreading having the same conversations over and over again with your mate. You want to help, but his or her tales of woe overwhelm you.

How to Protect Yourself: You can sympathize and listen briefly. Then tell your partner, "I can see you are upset, but I don't think it's constructive to keep rehashing the same issues. Let's concentrate on solutions." This approach allows you to be loving and to actively refocus the situation in a positive way.

Vampire No. 3: The Criticizer

These types have a sneaky way of making you feel guilty or lacking for not getting things just right. They can find fault with everything, and spot a flaw across a crowded room, then suggest how to improve yourself "for your own good." These can be minor critiques or comments that seriously hurt your feelings.

How to Protect Yourself: Try addressing the criticism positively, in a calm, neutral tone. Say, "I can see that you're trying to help, but when you're critical it's harder for me to hear you." Or, you might want to strike a compromise. For instance, if your mate criticizes you for leaving the dishes in the sink, you can divide the task up between the two of you. Do this with a very loving tone and attitude -- I call it setting off a "love bomb," where you diffuse negativity with sweetness while offering solutions to correct the situation.

Vampire No. 4: The Self-Obsessed Drainer

With these types, everything becomes about them, and they hardly listen to your needs. They may downplay your feelings and interests, as they steer the conversation back to them. (For extreme cases, see the description of "The Narcissist" in my previous blog).
How To Protect Yourself: Everyone goes through self-obsessed periods, but it's important to bring this to your mate's attention so he or she can shift out of it quickly. You can say, "Honey, I adore listening to you, but it would make me feel loved if you also spend time listening to me, too." Most people are unaware that they are becoming self-obsessed; but when you gently mention it, change can occur.

Vampire No. 5: The Unintentional Sapper

The people closest to you often can be the most draining. There is so much to take care of everyday that your mate can add to your sense of being overwhelmed. For instance, he or she comes home after having lost a big account at work and needs to vent frustration. You want to listen and be caring, but you're tired, too.

How to Protect Yourself: Plan regular mini-breaks from your partner (and children). Even a brief escape can replenish you. Take a short walk, meditate in your bedroom for a few minutes, listen to music you love. Or, if your mate has a harrowing commute home from work which makes him or her be cranky with you, let them take 10 minutes at home to decompress before you interact. You must negotiate your personal space with loved ones.

In relationships, it's important for couples to respect each other's energy needs. With your partner, it's healthy to protect your energy, too. Don't feel guilty or restrained about using my techniques. Honoring your energy isn't selfish. It will increase your patience and capacity to love.