Jewels

There are some wonderful Jewels hidden amongst the 12,000 posts.  I will gradually pick some out to share them here.  Don’t let that stop you rummaging around the forum yourself – after all synchronicity is more likely to lead you to what you need today that way 🙂 If you have some favourite TTEM jewels let me know and i will post them too 🙂

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14-10-14 … EFT for War Veterans
5-9-14 … The Downsides of Being Nice
9-4-14   … Control Dramas
9-4-14   … Stepping into the Fire – Documentary
10-3-14 … Keep Going – 3min Lakota YouTube
2-3-14   … Reacting to suicidal comments
1-3-14   … Phil Mollon – Psychoanalytic Energy Psychotherapy & Critique of UK state-directed Therapy

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EFT for War Veteran

I have been written to more about EFT than anything else – by folks ranging from a non-alt. businessman using it on himself for nervousness about public speaking to others on the usual range of health/stress issues. This YouTube is an incredible tale of some poor veterans who had suffered terribly for years if not decades before doing a 5 day EFT therapy course which gave them massive to complete relief: Very powerful – EFT for War Veterans.

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The Downsides of Being Nice

It’s a problem of language (after all isn’t the opposite of “nice” nasty?!) as well as upbringing (we are always told to be “nice”).  However many many folks don’t see (for decades) that there are real downsides in this behaviour pattern (eg if you always go along with what someone else wants – is that “nice”?). Check out these threads: Why being “nice” isn’t as “nice” or as good as it sounds (two books – one written by an American vicar) and Why Nice Guys and Gals Finish Last in Love

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Control Dramas

This is a useful and simple concept from the best-selling The Celestine Prophecy. Dependent upon childhood we (and others) will tend to act in one of four reactive ways when in situations of relationship stress (of all sorts): as an Intimidator, Interrogator, Aloof or Poor Me. Being able to recognise our patterns and those of folks around us helps us deal more skilfully with the situation (and ideally to step out of reactivity and “being triggered” into the default mode (which always exacerbates the crisis)). Read more here 🙂

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Stepping into the Fire – Documentary

This is a wonderful full-length documentary movie on YouTube. Find a way to settle down in comfort and watch it. I found it “far too American at first” (greedy self-obsessed Wall Street broker) but stick with it as by the end one gains understanding into “why” and the terrible hurts below the surface and sees the most remarkable transformation (and I don’t exaggerate). Also one for romantic interest – as his wife said “he was my husband for 18yrs and now has completely changed, I don’t know him any more” – how does she handle that..? Stepping into the Fire

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Keep Going

A young man asked his Lakota Grandfather what the answer was to life’s difficulties – a beautiful 3 minute YouTube on the answer – especially good when times are tough Inspirational: Kihelakayo (Lakota) – “Keep Going” Joseph Marshall III

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Reacting to suicidal comments

Barry Smale – an excellent therapist and long-time TTEM-hero (over 500 posts) – relates his experience and advice about how best to react and help people who share something unbearable or shocking with you – eg they want to kill themselves. He finds that in 90% of cases what people actually mean is that they can’t tolerate the current situation (as opposed to genuinely want to die).

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Phil Mollon

Phil Mollon is a UK pioneer in Psychoanalytic Energy Psychotherapy which comprises TFT, EFT, EMDR and much more.  It is the missing link in western therapy which recognises only mind and body (but even then proven scientific knowledge that eg trauma is physically held isn’t completely widespread).  “Energy” – whatever that means (think software/signals/messages in the body-mind?) – is the missing part of the sandwich. In the UK medicine and especially the NHS is very heavily regulated.  The citizen is forcibly taxed and them state-approved bureaucrats, heavily lobbied by the drug industry and a cash-starved Treasury, dictate what our stolen “health dollars” can be spent on 🙁  Phil writes a highly authoritative critique here – Excellent Critique of UK Statist Regulation of Psychotherapy.